Been There Got Out Podcast
Chris and Lisa of BeenThereGotOut.com both survived toxic marriages with narcissistic partners and the legal and co-parenting nightmares that go hand-in-hand with all of that.If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.Our podcast features interviews with lawyers, therapists, co-parenting coordinators, guardians ad litem, and other subject matter experts, as well as other content, all with one goal in mind: Let us teach you how to HELP YOURSELF!
Been There Got Out Podcast
Get Your Toxic Ex's Voice Out of Your Head
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Chris & Lisa | Karen McMahon
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Season 2025
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Episode 238
Karen McMahon, the founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, joins us to share her profound insights on breaking free from the mental hold of a high-conflict ex-spouse. We discuss how ruminating on an ex-partner's behavior can cloud one's judgment during and after divorce, hindering the path to personal empowerment. Karen emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and compassion, guiding us toward true freedom that stems from within rather than legal proceedings. By recognizing our roles in past dynamics, we can reclaim control over our lives and make decisions aligned with our values.
We also shed light on the complex journey of rebuilding self-worth after enduring coercive control and domestic abuse. We explore the lasting impact such experiences have on self-identity and the hurdles faced in rediscovering one's values and goals. Through powerful personal stories and practical exercises, including listing 25 positive self-descriptors with help from trusted loved ones, we aim to help victims challenge ingrained negative beliefs. By encouraging listeners to step out of their comfort zones and seek affirmation from supportive individuals, we offer a path to healing and empowerment.
Finally, we explore how self-compassion and self-love can be transformative forces for those navigating high-conflict divorces. By understanding personal triggers, individuals can approach challenging situations like court appearances with renewed strength. Furthermore, we discuss the potential for personal crises to act as catalysts for growth, helping to break generational cycles of unhealthy relationships. We share updates from Journey Beyond Divorce, including a new website and a free guide to help listeners evict a toxic spouse from their mental space, aiming to support healthier family dynamics for future generations.
