Been There Got Out Podcast

Reversing Parental Alienation When Your Kids Are Adults

Chris & Lisa | Ginger Gentile Season 2025 Episode 325

🎯 If your adult child has cut contact and you think it's too late, this interview will change everything.Ginger Gentile, director of the documentary "Erasing Family" (free on YouTube), has helped reunite 180 families—including cases where parents had NO contact with adult children for up to 12 years. No email access, no phone number, didn't even know where their kid lived.And here's the surprising part: in the most successful reunifications, the child initiates the reconnection, not the parent.

What You'll Learn:

✅ Why your first step ISN'T reaching out to your child (and what to do instead)
✅ How to release trauma responses that push adult children further away
✅ The social media strategy that works (your kids ARE watching, even with fake accounts)
✅ Why "I did my best" isn't the response adult children need to hear
✅ How to become a "magnet" that draws your child back
✅ The difference between fighting in court vs. strategic preparation
✅ Why celebrating small victories (like a viewed text) matters more than the "big win"
✅ Real success stories: From 12 years of silence to reconnection

About Ginger Gentile:

Ginger is the director and producer of "Erasing Family," a documentary told from the child's perspective about how divorce impacts kids. As someone who experienced parental alienation herself as a child, she brings both personal and professional insight to healing families. After the documentary's release, parents began asking for help reuniting with their children, leading Ginger to create a coaching program that has helped 180 families reconnect—including adult children who had been estranged for years.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - Introduction: Reuniting families when kids are over 18
02:26 - The first strategic step (it's NOT reaching out)
04:20 - Ginger introduces herself and the Erasing Family documentary
06:24 - Why you need to become a "magnet" that draws your child back
06:58 - The third way: Not fighting, not waiting, but actively preparing
08:36 - Dealing with the "us vs. them" narrative without becoming defensive
09:35 - When Ginger used the words "you abandoned us" about her own dad
12:45 - The difference between "I did my best" and what kids need to hear
15:20 - Why adult children feel entitled to space and how to respect boundaries
18:40 - How kids spy on parents using fake social media accounts
21:15 - The social media strategy alienated parents are missing
24:30 - Small steps and victories: Viewed texts, brief interactions
27:50 - Why you can't control the outcome but you can control your response
30:45 - The power of releasing trauma responses and staying calm
33:20 - Learned helplessness vs. taking strategic action
37:16 - Leaning into the grief: "It's my funeral and my kids didn't show up"
38:22 - The importance of validation rather than toxic positivity
40:25 - Progress over perfection: Tracking small wins
42:17 - How to find Ginger and her team
42:50 - The importance of community and accountability

WATCH THE ERASING FAMILY DOCUMENTARY (FREE):

https://www.youtube.com/erasingfamily

CONNECT WITH GINGER GENTILE:

🌐 Website: https://reversingparentalalienation.com
📱 Instagram: @erasingfamily
🎬 YouTube: @erasingfamily

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